All I wanted was a custom domain email

(jacobg.co)

52 points | by jgx0 13 hours ago ago

72 comments

  • rsingel 22 minutes ago

    Not sure why the cloudflare option to a personal gmail, and then setting up Send as in Gmail doesn't work for OP.

    https://support.google.com/mail/answer/22370?hl=en

    Fine for small needs.

    And then when bigger pay $5 a month per email address to a decent provider. At that point, you're spending more energy to save money than it's worth.

  • adospace 10 hours ago

    Hi Jacob, Ado here, from FounderMail. I'm really glad you ended up on-boarding with us, and I wanted to reach out to thank you for the review and feedback.

    The manual approve to outbound sending helped a lot to keep spammers out of the platform.

    We ensure that domain exists and you're the owner, the website is legit, etc, making impossible for a bot to operate throughout our channel.

    And is working, almost 4 weeks in, no complaints, less than 0.1 bounce rate.

    You know, having an high reputation is vital to ensure the emails we send on behalf of our customers are reaching the inbox not the spam folder.

    Said that, you continue to be right: it's annoying. We're working to reduce the pain autoapproving it for cases like your.

    Thank you again (I hope you'll never find a reason to leave us! :)

    • stingrae 8 hours ago

      Is it actually free to use? i cant find the pricing page

    • jgx0 8 hours ago

      Thank you for creating such a great service! It’s always great using a product and getting to thank the developer directly. Your platform seems perfect so far and it was extremely quick to get approved for outbound sending (definitely less than 12 hours). Seems to be working perfectly so far, and I don’t think i’ll be switching anytime soon.

    • shaewest 8 hours ago

      I went to your site to check this out, and I found the bright orange from the first slide was killing my eyes, and my coworkers. The other landing page slides were great, the first one made me want to leave.

      Overall looks like a great tool that I'll look into for my next projects.

      • ricericerice 37 minutes ago

        I found the egregious LLM generated text a bit of a turn off, too.

        If you don't care about your website, why should I?

      • joshcartme 2 hours ago

        Jacob's blog links to https://foundermail.mx/, I'm guessing you were looking at foundermail.app. I have no idea if they're related, but the former does not burn your eyes, the latter is very bright

      • phalangion 7 hours ago

        > killing… my coworkers.

        RIP

    • bakugo 8 hours ago

      > making impossible for a bot to operate throughout our channel.

      Somewhat ironic, given your entire website is AI generated.

      • 4b11b4 8 hours ago

        Seems you're... conflating the concepts of spamming people with using a language model to generate code

      • MarcellusDrum 8 hours ago

        You're saying that building their own website using AI is equivalent to sending spam emails?

        • handoflixue 8 hours ago

          Building a website with Claude is literally "a bot operating on their channels". Whether these are morally equivalent is an unrelated axis - it's the literal claim that's being disputed

  • ryandrake 8 hours ago

    Interesting that self-hosting isn't on his list. It hits every one of his checkboxes and only costs you an old Linux server collecting dust at home (or at most, a $5/mo VPS), which you can also use to host other things.

    It's never been easier to self-host, but it feels like, in general, when faced with "I want to do X with a computer," people are more and more reaching for paid, hosted services rather than DIY anymore.

    • GianFabien 7 hours ago

      I've tried this approach, but I found that most email providers aggressively filter out all incoming messages that don't come from validated sources. No matter what I tried deliverability of emails remained very spotty. I did configure DKIM, DMARC, SPIF, etc as suggested. But minimal improvements. Eventually ended up going with AWS SES.

      • bombcar 35 minutes ago

        I've had surprisingly good luck the few times I've tried it - but using VPSs that were a bit more spendy and not known to be spamhavens helped, I think.

        The cost of something like AWS SES or Postmark is so low as to make it almost not worth it, but it worked; not that I'd trust "real" email to it - but I was surprised that Wordpress setup emails were getting through with little config.

    • jgx0 8 hours ago

      I’ve actually tried before to self host on my VPS as well as my homelab that I use for various services. I honestly just didn’t trust the stability of my own services enough for something as important as email. As a project I definitely want to try again in the future.

    • zeeveener 8 hours ago

      I haven't spent any real amount of time looking into this, but from the basic research I did perform, I found that well-written guides that aren't grossly out of date are hard to find.

      Also, my understanding is that Google, Outlook and other major email services have been implementing as many roadblocks for self-hosted setups as possible to the point where it's a constant battle and difficult to keep up with.

    • cosmotic 8 hours ago

      The problem with self hosting is getting through google, microsoft, etc spam filters.

      • handoflixue 8 hours ago

        It depends a lot on whether you need the account for reading email, sending email to your own accounts, or sending email to other people. The first two are very easy to self-host.

        But agreed that mass-mailing (even account registration style emails) seems a lot less reliable because of those spam filters.

      • waynesonfire 8 hours ago

        it's only "difficult" because google, microsoft, etc have conivenced the community that self-hosting e-mail is not possible and for some reason, further propetuated by IT influencers that have drank that koolaid.

        all complete bullshit; they arbitrraly occasionally block to protect their moat raping privacy. e-mail is the most rewarding self-hosting capability. like anything, there is a learning curve but at the end of the day: it's easy, stable, a pleasure to host. there are solutions that ease the learning curve. after a while, all the e-mail do make it through.

        i'm so happy that my communications are not indexed by these hyperscalers.

        stop listening to these pussies claiming how difficult it is. they're projecting their limitations.

        • hakfoo 7 hours ago

          It didn't help that people are seemingly more offended about the possibility of spam on their inbox than on losing a valuable email due to misclassification.

          There's little to no incentive for providers to ever de-escalate.

          At my day job, we use Gsuite. I never used it for any non-work purpose, and it wasn't publically published, so any "spam" it got was false positives. Emails I actually needed were being buried below the fold in the spam folder. It turns out there is no obvious way to 100% disable spam filtering (at the time I got the first false-positive at least) so I had to try to just allowlist things that should be left alone.

    • tough 8 hours ago

      Isnt email blacklisting/actually getting mails to inbox infamously hard? I otherwise think the rest of the stack is indeed solved, but its probably cheaper to pay Amazon SES or whatever for getting your emails to an inbox reliably

      • lucb1e 7 hours ago

        Everyone has the same problem. For example, Apple recently blocked a service that notifies you of parliamentary documents (source in Dutch: https://chaos.social/@tkdocs@mastodon.nl/117370967171338864)

        Email receivers (be it Gmail or your local council) don't differentiate if you're self hosting or a business. So long as small businesses can manage (who have like one part-time sysadmin that also manages a ton of other IT stuff; email doesn't take much of their time), so can you. If you set up the usual suspects like SPF and DMARC, the domain is not a known spammer, and the IP not in a blocked address range, it's mostly hands-off (source: I self host my email)

        If you need it to really be super reliable, yeah, you need to send through one of the big companies who have not just a dedicated sending IP address but entire ranges dedicated to email sending, as well as staff that will respond to delivery issues 24/7. Microsoft rejecting email from Google and vice versa isn't unheard of, so there aren't guarantees anywhere, but that would be your best bet. For my personal use, that extra nine of reliability isn't needed

  • EwanToo 9 hours ago

    Feels weird to ignore the largest players, e.g. Fastmail or Protonmail

    • ajb 8 hours ago

      Protonmail doesn't have unlimited addresses for sending, which is one of his requirements. It has catch-all , which means you can receive from an arbitary number, so it's okay for one -email-per-vendor, but if you ever need to send via one of those addresses then you have to use up one of your 10 or 20 allowed addresses.

      This is because like most other vendors, they do price discrimination based on number of users. Which is no doubt why the other large vendors were also ruled out.

      One vendor who doesn't do this is Migadu. I don't use them as they lack 2FA support, but they are one of a small number of businesses who make their proposition easy to evaluate quickly, as opposed to making you swipe through a pitch before you get to the facts. This is so unusual that I remember them despite evaluating them multiple years ago.

      • LazyOne 4 minutes ago

        With Proton and SimpleLogin you can effectively reply through all the aliases. It’s not actually unlimited addresses but I’ve been using it for some time and I find it meets all my needs in a simple clean way. Very happy with the combo.

      • bl4kers 19 minutes ago

        Tuta has unlimited addresses for sending

    • frizlab 8 hours ago

      Or iCloud+. He specifically asked for Apple Mail integration ffs

      • zeeveener 8 hours ago

        I use the iCloud custom domain for my personal email and I can confidently say it's worth the cost.

        I am definitely engrossed in the Apple Ecosystem™ though so I can't speak to how it would fit any other setup that isn't almost entirely Apple-based.

      • jgx0 7 hours ago

        iCloud plus has had some issues in the past, they pretty aggressively filter emails to the point of just not sending/receiving messages with certain phrases. https://forums.techsoup.org/t/icloud-email-system-blocks-ema...

        • Angostura 41 minutes ago

          I’ve never had a problem with, but then I’ve never sent an email containing the phrase ‘barely legal teens’

  • ruuda 9 hours ago

    The shared hosting package that I bought with my domain 20 years ago from a local hosting company comes with all of these, it cost I think €12/year originally. They got acquired some time ago by a large hosting company who charges more than €120/year for the same package. Then I switched to another local mail provider who charge €40/year (but with more storage). Aren't there many such providers?

    • t0mas88 8 hours ago

      There are, but I've seen several of those price increases in a row so you may be moving a lot. And mail deliverability to Outlook and Gmail from those hosts isn't always great.

  • zie 8 hours ago

    I use Migadu(migadu.com), but Apple's iCloud email hosting is basically tailor fit to your expectations, so I don't have any idea why you don't use it.

    But you can host your own email too. It's not the easiest option, but it can be done, and there has been some newer email server software written that tries to make it easier.

    • jgx0 7 hours ago

      iCloud email has been part of some sketchy things in the past, supposedly they have been dropping emails with certain words in them with no notification to either side of the message. There isn’t an option to turn it off and it isn’t advertised anywhere https://forums.techsoup.org/t/icloud-email-system-blocks-ema...

  • wh33zle 8 hours ago

    I can recommend Fastmail. Reasonably priced, modern tech & features, good service. Never had any issues.

  • po1nt an hour ago

    In my experience with emails, if you're not comming from big services like Google, Hotmail etc. The big services will still sometimes flag you as a spam even if you have everything set up properly. They use the monopoly position tohold the email hostage. I think it's time to seriously consider developing and adopting a successor for email.

  • patriciobcs 9 hours ago

    Why not using iCloud custom domains? Is the simplest option if you want apple mail compatibility

    • Lalabadie 8 hours ago

      Ditto. The cheapest iCloud subscription includes everything necessary. My partner and I both have emails through our respective personal domains, all on the same sub – I think the limit is 3 custom domains.

    • sherry-sherry 8 hours ago

      iCloud Mail will silently filter emails with certain words (including in attachments).

      You aren’t told something has been filtered and it doesn’t go to spam. It’s just deleted with zero recourse. The sender isn’t notified either.

      https://talk.macpowerusers.com/t/icloud-mail-what-to-do-when...

      I had this happen as recently as June 2026 when my current provider was up. It happens on @mac.com @me.com @icloud.com and custom domains.

    • pyuser314 9 hours ago

      I second this recommendation. My custom domain emails work wonderfully through Apple iCloud account.

  • adastra22 8 hours ago

    “Integration with Apple Mail” shy not just use iCloud with a custom domain?

  • abound 9 hours ago

    I use StartMail [1], which I believe ticks all of OP's boxes (I had similar boxes).

    [1] https://www.startmail.com/

  • LatticeAnimal 8 hours ago

    Protonmail has worked great for me. Never had any issues and I like the inclusion of docs + sheets (even though their apps are ridiculously slow to load)

  • newscracker 6 hours ago

    > At the limit. Once a month's received allowance is used, further mail is refused with a permanent error and the sender is told;

    Consider that you may be losing email without knowing even on the cheapest paid plan for $44 a year limits incoming emails to 500 a month. Most people don’t get 500 emails a month, but there can be months when this happens and the emails aren’t even in a “hold” until you upgrade. They’re just completely lost.

    I’d rather have unlimited incoming emails than 15 GB or whatever higher storage is offered.

  • mcv 8 hours ago

    I've got my domain at namecheap, and they just forward all mail to two different pre-existing mailboxes. I configure my mailreader to use my address at my own domain when sending mail, and that works perfectly fine. Sure, headers may show them going through different mail servers, but nobody ever looks at that anymore.

  • bastawhiz 8 hours ago

    > There was one annoying limitation. I had to submit a special request before I could send emails to new addresses that had not previously messaged me.

    Maybe I'm misunderstanding but this sounds absolutely wild. What?

    • jgx0 8 hours ago

      The founder of foundermail actually left a comment here talking about this. I will likely update the article that it took less than 7 hours to be approved.

  • flowerlad 8 hours ago

    With Google sunsetting support for custom domain in Gmail (scheduled for Jan 2027) I am looking for solutions to sending email from custom domains. Amazon SES works well and is cheap for SMTP.

    I want to continue to use Gmail for email storage--mainly because of the awesome search function, but also for longevity--while using a third-party app for pulling specific emails from Gmail and replying to them through my custom domain(s).

    The solutions mentioned in this blog aren't that--they have their own storage.

    • joshcartme 2 hours ago

      What about using cloudflare or whoever to forward emails to your gmail, and then user cloudflare or whoever's smtp to send emails from that address?

  • throwaway093020 9 hours ago

    MXRoute's lifetime plans (which they usually offer around black Friday) are a great option if you can get one. I paid $99 for mine five years ago. The service has only improved since then.

    • asdfqwertzxcv 7 hours ago

      Same and agreed. Absolutely great service for the cost

  • jibalt 8 hours ago

    I just dealt with this due to the impending termination of .name email. I use a combination of gmail as my mail agent, CloudFlare for the domain, and SMTP2Go for low volume outbound with SPF, DKIM, and DMARC. I don't have any Apple usage or requirements.

    Oh, I just remembered that I send mail received by my CloudFlare domain to both gmail and zohomail, and use Thunderbird as the mail agent for the latter.

  • ohcmon 8 hours ago

    I’d suggest cloudflare + resend + https://workspace.google.com/essentials/ (which is $0) + forwarding and alias to personal google account for gmail ui.

    Big benefit of this combination is that you get "login with google", docs, drive, hangouts

    • jgx0 7 hours ago

      Resend just kept getting stuck in spam folders for me when sending, maybe I set something up wrong. On their documentation it just says you have to pay for the extremely expensive certificate needed for gmail to trust your messages.

  • ivanjermakov 8 hours ago

    Possibly the only free soltuion: setup email forwarding in gmail using https://improvmx.com/about/.

    Can even send email, although recipient sees that it has been forwarded.

  • nunez 7 hours ago

    Fastmail! Checks almost all of your boxes for US$100/yr. Also supports Apple Mail push. I think that's a good price for premium email and calendar hosting with custom domains!

  • Muromec 9 hours ago

    I added my custom domain to my provider email. Yes, those still exist in places

  • s0rce 8 hours ago

    I use zoho mail, works well.

  • internet2000 8 hours ago

    iCloud+ mail was definitely a better choice. I'll send my feedback through email.

    • jgx0 6 hours ago

      Would love to receive one :)

  • skeptrune 8 hours ago

    I like Fastmail a lot

  • newsforb 9 hours ago

    I can recommend Lark. Free tier does everything.

  • fortran77 8 hours ago

    I've been very happy with MXRoute

  • 65 8 hours ago

    Unpopular opinion, but I've used Google Workspace for years and I really like having my email via gmail. SSO and spam filtering and Google Docs. I thought about switching to Amazon Workmail but the price I pay for Workspace is worth it.

    • nunez 7 hours ago

      Gmail STILL doesn't support push for Apple Mail.

      This and them sunsetting Exchange EWS (which enabled push) was the straw that forced me into looking at other options (the other being them forcing you to pay for Gemini even if you have it completely disabled in your Workspace)

    • TacticalCoder 8 hours ago

      > Unpopular opinion, but I've used Google Workspace for years ...

      Not that unpopular. I've used it since way before it was called "Google Workspace" and it Just Works [TM]. Also once you pay for it, suddenly they pick up the phone if you ever need support.

      A shitload of SMEs are using Google Workspace to get their own domain and all the Google suite.

      I know it's cool to hate on Google on HN but for my part I'll forever be hating on Microsoft and Meta. I tolerate Google.