Ask HN: Advice for First Child?

1 points | by bix6 12 hours ago ago

4 comments

  • yokaze 12 minutes ago

    Forget tech. Except the bottle and a thermometer.

    Forget about "breast is best". Fed is best.

    If breastfeeding works, great. Giving the bottle won't stop your child taking the breast.

    The evidence for "breast is best" is limited.

    Divide the work, and give each other some time off. Both of your mental well-being is important as well.

    Wanting the best for your child is normal, but remember: the best is the enemy of good.

    Regarding the TV: the evidence there is also limited. Don't want to discourage you.

    Most studies are observational. Most of them are done with volunteers in an university related environment, the differences are usually small.

    If you want to follow that advice and it makes you feel better, great. But don't stress yourself out over it.

    The most important thing is that your child has loving and caring parents which are there for it. And that takes effort too.

    All the best.

  • uberman 12 hours ago

    Long nights and short years. It will seem both impossible and in the blink of an eye they will be driving and looking at colleges.

    Split the responsibilities and dont wait for your partner to ask for help.

    Start a 529 now.

  • getwiththeprog 7 hours ago

    Forget the technology and gadgets for the first few years. They need nothing other than your presence and care.

    When they are old enough, around four, get them on to Linux!

  • turtleyacht 10 hours ago

    No tablets. Have lots of things to read and material for arts & crafts. Keep them bored for naught but the outside or their own making.

    Have a computer with OpenBSD. Not for nothing can it do any thing, if they're willing to start from less.