Ask HN: How Do You Relax?

13 points | by azeirah 19 hours ago ago

18 comments

  • genezeta 11 hours ago

    I walk to the park during slow hours, sit on a bench, wait for a bunch of sparrows to come, and then I give them some sunflower seeds. Sometimes -but not often- a magpie will approach too. You have to be quiet for birds to come near and fairly calm for them to approach you at all.

    Others can only be spotted from a distance. Wagtails are quite timid but can be seen running around sometimes, and the blackbirds can be heard a lot even if you don't see them. I've also spotted a couple of woodpeckers. And once the park fell suddenly still and I looked up and there was a kite passing by (they have been spotted nesting in a much larger park a couple of miles away).

    If the park is busy, then I'll watch the dogs, people going by. I ponder about the futility of life. Just sit there silently, doing nothing.

    • azeirah 7 hours ago

      This sounds lovely! This definitely sounds like the kind of thing that would really work well to let all the stresses of the everyday wash off!

      It reminds me a lot of the YouTube channel "life in jars", he normally makes videos about microbiology and freshwater ecology in... jars!

      But on top of that he also had a short series on gaining the trust of and befriending crows in his city.

      Good incentive for me to try this out!

  • KaiLetov an hour ago

    I play airsfot every Sunday it's the perfect reset. Equal parts sport, adrenaline, and pain from getting hit by those little plastic balls. But honestly, there's so much laughter that you forget the bruises. Highly recommend if you've never tried it.

    • KaiLetov an hour ago

      Also, surfing. Nothing clears your head quite like getting tossed around by the ocean.

  • sgbeal 19 hours ago

    - Programming and/or documenting personal projects

    - Tabletop games, though probably 90% of this means either tinkering with games (as opposed to playing them, e.g. creating inserts or new pieces for them) and/or hanging out on BoardGameGeek dot com.

    - Reading, mostly anthologies of fiction from Wildside Press which collect many works from the early/mid 20th century, purchasable DRM-free for $1-2 each (for anywhere from 300 to 1500 pages). (Not associated with them, but am a long-time happy customer.)

  • labarilem 3 hours ago

    In weekdays, laying on the couch after eating a healthy and tasteful dinner after an intensive strength training session at the gym. Weekends usually allow more freedom and I have more cognitive energy available too, so besides "usual" weekend activities I work on some side projects while discovering cool ambient music or study some interesting topics (usually CS).

  • ok1984 4 hours ago

    It might sound strange, but the best relaxing time for me is that sometimes I go to the office on Saturday or Sunday, turn off email and phone and write a blog post or make a short video about our product.

    https://www.pragmatech.it/blog-home/all/index.html

    https://youtube.com/@pragmatech-srl?si=k5Dvw855pE3int4s

  • Shogo_Kaneda 2 hours ago

    How about meditation? It's worth to try. You can use guide videos on Youtube or app such as Calm and Headspace.

  • throwaway5465 14 hours ago

    My job is social and deadline driven. Here's what works for me:

    Lifting some weights in a deserted gym - no music or people.

    Stretching for 20 minutes before bed each day.

    Getting a full night's sleep.

    Going to a favourite restaurant once or twice a week. The rest of the time a simple, high fibre diet with lots of water, no alcohol, cigarettes or drugs.

    Doing a part-time postgraduate course to boost some depth and variety to the often-times surface-level demands of work work.

  • i_don_t_know 6 hours ago

    I used to run long distance, no music, no headphones, no trackers, no watch. Let your mind drift, or focus on the rest of the course. Or go swimming and count laps. Or go bouldering (in doors), pick a route and focus on it.

  • stochtinkerer 5 hours ago

    Try to actively relax, not passively. Go for walks, socialize, do hobbies. Don't get sucked into to algorithms, it will fry your brain and you will never have time to rejuvenate.

    Baths/Sauna/Sports also work, do something that genuinely refreshes you. The mind/body is an ecosystem, not a linear battery.

  • sidrag22 19 hours ago

    When i feel i need to totally turn off, I'll turn on a podcast of something im somewhat interested in, and play a game that commands just a slight amount of attention, and pay a slight amount of attention to both things.

  • wanderingpixel 13 hours ago

    Hiking through the woods, mountain-biking through the back country. Soaking in the bathtub reading books or short stories.

  • raw_anon_1111 16 hours ago

    Exercise, travel - including “nomading”, learning Spanish, hanging out with my wife and friends - anything not involving computers.

  • sloaken 12 hours ago

    Reading hacker news and playing civilization. Then a long walk.

  • austin-cheney 7 hours ago

    * walk around my various fruit trees

    * converse with my cat and dogs

    * play games

    * refactor personal code

  • ksherlock 16 hours ago

    Have you tried shotgunning a couple beers?